Today was the first day of 2nd grade. Our first year to have the boys in separate classes. I get a lot of strange reactions when I tell people they have always been in the same class. Most people silently judge and throw out comments about letting them be individuals (as if they aren’t already) or something similar. You know those lists of things NOT to say in specific situations? Well, I could come up with quite a few for parents of multiples.
When we first found out we were having twins I was TERRIFIED! My husband got home and immediately went to our computer (we didn’t even have iPhones yet, can you remember life before instant internet access?) and looked up images of women full-term with twins. He was so excited but cracking me up with these images of women so big and pregnant. Then I became even more terrified. I was growing TWO babies in my belly and I was going to get that big.
I didn’t know anyone with twins. I had no clue what to do with one baby, much less twins. I tried to read some books but they were all different and so I just stopped reading all together. I went with the advice of, “you will figure it out and know what to do.”
They started out sharing one bassinet in the hospital, a co-sleeper next to our bed, then sharing one crib to then sharing a room with individual cribs. We had an extra spare room but until I saw a need to separate them, they were good together. They started Mother’s Day Out at 18-months, in the same class. There was only one 18-month class. From that point on we kept them together – 3 years for MDO, PreK, Kindergarten and then 1st grade. They are BEST FRIENDS, not just brothers or twins.
One is more confident and outspoke while the other is a bit more reserved in a classroom setting. Those characteristics became stronger and more apparent by the middle of 1st grade. One was speaking more for the other, which made him not confident in asking for help. It was an issue all year. We struggled at school and at home. But, I wasn’t going to split them in the middle of a school year, even if I could.
We knew we were splitting them for 2nd grade. We have been preparing them all summer for this. The night before our first day both boys were saying, “I’m so excited!”
We are raising two incredible boys. They continuously blow me away with their tender hearts and loving spirits. They are resilient, brave, kind, funny, smart and genuinely care for their friends and family. And they rocked the first day of school!
P.S. I may or may not have cried most of the day.